I discussed getting feedback, or how I like to call it; a smack in the face, a while ago. And now I would like to explain how you should give feedback.

When I asked some friends about feedback, the all say: ‘I like it, but it have to be some positive feedback.’ Feedback should contain not only bad things, but some good things also. Only bad things would make you feel miserable, only good things doesn’t help you at all.

How should you give feedback

  • Make it a real feedback talk. Don’t just give some tips, make it serious. Write things down, and explain, with examples what you are thinking about that other person and why. Like if someone is your group-leader of some sort of project take some time at the end of the week to talk about how he is doing.  Write things down during the week what you want to say to him.
  • Make sure it is constructive criticism. You have to be sure that the other person is able to turn your feedback in action. If someone says to me: ‘Stefan, you are sitting like a bag of salt, go sit straight!’ It is something I can’t do anything with. It makes me angry towards that person. Say instead of those angry words something like this: ‘Stefan, do you know that you aren’t sitting straight? Try to stretch your back more.’ First, the question. Probably I don’t know at all how I sit, so ask first if the person is familiair with the problem, than give tips how to do it better.
  • Be realistic. If you are giving feedback to someone who is really shy about a presentation in class, don’t give tips like ‘try to walk more, make it more vivid’ and all, because that person is having a hard time standing in front of the class. Give tips about being confident to talk to the class instead. Now who you are talking to, now their capacities, now what limits they have, and of course, now which limits you should cross!

Now you understand how to give feedback, practize on me! I would like some feedback about this site!



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